My Honest Perspective on Twin Flames

Have you heard the narrative that at the moment of your soul’s creation, it was divided into two halves, each embarking on its own path? This division lasts through lifetimes with the ultimate goal of reuniting with the other half. The reunion is often romanticised as a spiritual achievement, a return to being whole again and the completion of a divine mission.

I believe that nowadays this journey is heavily romanticised, to the point where it can become unhealthy for you. It can push you to stay in unhealthy dynamics, putting your life on hold with the hope of reuniting with your one and only twin flame. To me, the twin flame journey is more symbolic than literal.

The separation, intense emotions, synchronicities, and deep longing that you may experience as twin flames could actually reflect a longing to unite with your higher self, a longing to merge with everything that exists. All the experiences along this path can serve as opportunities for spiritual inquiry and awakening. They push you toward a higher realisation that there is nothing to reunite with because there has never truly been a separation from the essence that permeates all existence.

The fire that burns within twin flames may not be two souls seeking reunion, but rather the singular, unquenchable flame of consciousness seeking to experience itself in its true boundless form. This understanding can transform the dynamic between you and the other person. The yearning for the twin can become a yearning for self-knowledge, and the search for union with the other can evolve into a reunion with the self.

From this perspective, reuniting with the twin is not the final destination but rather a symbolic step toward recognising that the self is not separate from divine reality. It can become a metaphor for awakening to the deeper, invisible nature of consciousness.

When you meet a person you feel is your twin flame, it often triggers an intense process of self-awareness. This process challenges your personal narratives. The profound resonance you feel with your twin flame can be similar to the realisation of the self in all experience. Eventually, the twin flame story can be seen as part of the cosmic drama, where souls play their roles until they awaken to their true nature.

Seeking unity with the twin in the external world still operates within the illusion of separateness. The deep yearning for union is actually an inner call to return to the state of original wholeness. The mirroring effect so common in twin flame dynamics confronts you with your own shadow, wounds, and fears, pushing you to move beyond the ego.

In practice, this means realising that what you long for, run from, or fear is not in the other person but within yourself. Twin flames often share the same energetic vibration, so meeting such a person can be a shock to your soul and body. It may feel almost unreal to encounter someone so similar to you. This can be both wonderful and terrifying. Through this person, you are faced with your biggest fears, traumas, and the parts of yourself you have kept buried in your subconscious. As these hidden aspects come into the light, your consciousness expands. Once everything is revealed, you can reach your full potential and realise that at your core, you are one with everything, not only with your twin flame. The twin flame was simply the vehicle that took you there.

The Astrological View

From an astrological perspective, twin flame relationships are often strongly influenced by outer planet energies such as Neptune, Uranus, and Pluto. These planets carry higher frequencies that operate on a psychological and soul level. Unlike personal planets, which are expressed more naturally in daily life, outer planets must be consciously plugged into in order to access their messages. In synastry, this connection can happen when one person’s personal planets or points activate another person’s outer planets.

From my observations, these planets play a central role in twin flame dynamics.

Uranus shakes up normal reality, bringing sudden changes and new ways of thinking and living. It drives progress and gives flashes of genius. Twin flame relationships often have strong Uranian themes. They are rarely conventional. Through them, the universe shows us that love can exist outside traditional rules. Two people can be far apart, even out of contact and still feel unconditional love. Experiences such as telepathic communication, sudden realisations, the runner and chaser dynamic, and moments of inner knowing all carry Uranian energy.

Neptune is the higher octave of Venus, representing unconditional love and the longing to merge into oneness. In the twin flame journey, Neptune’s influence is felt in the deep spiritual connection, the sense of dissolving boundaries and the vision of love that transcends the personal self.

Pluto is the planet of death and rebirth, going deep into the shadows to reveal what must be healed. In twin flame relationships, Pluto brings transformation through intense, sometimes painful experiences. It forces buried fears and traumas to the surface so they can be faced and healed.

When experienced on a lower vibration, these energies can create confusion, obsession, and suffering. This is why, without spiritual maturity and a shift in consciousness, twin flames often cannot maintain a harmonious relationship. They must first learn to receive these energies in their higher, transformative forms.

Another crucial factor is the Lunar Nodes, the North Node and South Node. These points reveal the soul’s mission in this lifetime. Twin flames often strongly activate each other’s Nodes, reflecting their role in helping each other grow and evolve. In synastry, the Nodes can show where the connection pushes each person out of their comfort zone, the South Node, and toward their path of spiritual development, the North Node.

Ultimately, whether viewed spiritually or astrologically, the twin flame journey is not about the final union with another person. It is about returning to the self. It is about seeing beyond the emotional rollercoaster to a deeper understanding of unconditional love and unity.